Japanese Sensual Massage
The way to a man's heart isn't through his stomach—or even his pants. It's through his skin. Once you learn the art of erotic touch (don't worry, it's not rocket science), you'll not only give him the time of his life in bed, you'll also feel closer to him than you have in, oh, years.
Our entire erotic massage ritual takes 30 minutes, but in this relatively short time you'll manage to hit all the erogenous zones you know about—and dozens you don't. You'll need some oil and a warm room, and it may feel sexy to ask questions as you go ("How does this feel?" "Do you like that?")—though silence can be just as steamy.
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Pre-Massage: The Pep Talk (And the Prep)
Amazingly, some men may balk at the idea of receiving an erotic massage. If your husband is reluctant to being rubbed and cherished for a half hour, simply say, "Try this for me. No strings attached. If you hate it after five minutes, we'll stop." Men, strangely, often need to be pulled to heaven, kicking and screaming the whole way. But if he's a willing participant, get him to do a few minutes of simple stretching beforehand. Have him prepare his body the same way he'd get ready for a run: a few lunges to loosen the legs, a few arm twirls for the arms and back. His circulation will improve, and his muscle tension will ease up.
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For five minutes: Have him lie face up on the bed; position yourself behind his head. (Since this is only a 30-minute massage, we're not including the back. But it has a few major erogenous zones there—shoulder blades, lower back, butt—if you have some extra time.) Begin scratching his scalp with your nails. Trace the folds of his ears, the contours of his cheekbones and nose. Then place your palms on the back of his head, as if you were holding a cantaloupe in cupped hands. Where his neck meets the skull, you'll find little hollows in the bone. These hollows—acupressure points, actually—are little-known erogenous zones. To give them their due, put your fingertips on them and gradually increase the pressure. Then grasp his head at the jaw and pull it toward you gently, stretching his neck muscles. "By pressing the points and stretching muscles, you'll increase his circulation and awaken his senses, " says acupressure expert Michael Reed Gach, Ph.D.
The Third Eye (center of the forehead, directly between the eyebrows) and the temples (at the sides of the forehead) are other acupressure points. Gently press the Third Eye for 60 seconds; then lightly rotate your fingers on his temples for 30 seconds. This will relieve tension and allow sexual excitement to flow.
For three minutes: Now it's time to focus on the hip region. The area that runs from the belly button to the genitalia is an erogenous zone, so don't neglect it. Start with the navel itself: circle the rim of an innie, or the base camp of an outie (a direct hit might give your husband the willies). Three or four finger-widths down from there, you'll find a super-important spot acupressurists call the Gate of Origin, right over the bladder. Press it very gently (if he didn't pee before the massage began, he may need to now) to "open sexual energy, " says Gach. AKA: it's going to really turn him on.